I love the end of the year. Of course, part of the reason is because of the joy of the holiday season, with its non-stop hustle, bustle and celebrating. But I also appreciate the opportunity the end of year presents to reflect on lessons experienced and learned. With each year end comes the chance – and the choice – to make changes based on the experiences of the previous 364 days.
2019 was a knockout year for me, in terms of lessons. I learned so many things that led to a shift in the way I cultivate to my relationships, attend to my professional development, and live my life as an entrepreneur and executive coach. Here are the top three things I have learned this year:
- Relationships require rules of engagement: This year, I saw relationships come and go. As a result, I learned it’s important to understand our personal rules of engagement for relationships and unapologetically expect those rules to be met. This is not a bad thing, because relationships take time and energy. We should all make sure that our energy and time are respected and that we can respect the needs of others.
- Recognizing limitations and setting boundaries builds a path to excellence: This year, I had to recognize that I have limits. A couple of years ago, I designed a “Superwoman must die” t-shirt that will be going back into production. We all must understand our limitations, meaning we can’t do it all. And that’s ok. Once we acknowledge this, we can move forward in setting appropriate boundaries, personally and professionally. Guess what happens next. Excellence! When I finally understood that I have limitations and set my boundaries appropriately, great things started happening. My business grew. My mommy hood appreciation changed. My relationships blossomed with thoughtful, fun and intentional outcomes. This lesson was so impactful that my theme for 2020 is, “Limitations. Boundaries. Excellence.”
- I must develop, too: I’ve been an entrepreneur for nearly six years and this one has been a year of questioning, wondering, then questioning some more. It finally hit me that my questioning and wondering came from a place of stagnancy. I pour my all into my clients, but I realized I hadn’t poured into myself to grow and develop my business or the professional acumen I need to be successful in my work with my clients. Yep, I’m a coach and I tell women all the time how important it is to make sure they are pouring into their individual development so they can be better for themselves, their employers, their clients and so on. But guess who missed the memo on this? Me! Toward the end of this year, I made time for my own professional development. The result? Some amazing growth strategies for 2020 that will make an awesome difference for me as well as my clients. We must all pour into our own development. It’s not hard and it doesn’t have to be expensive. It can be a good book, training, coaching and so many things in between. The point is this: make the investment in you.
I am better for the things I have learned this year. The learnings excite me for 2020. I’m also thrilled you’ll be coming along with me and ConnectThree on new journeys as we work to make greater impact with the work we do. I hope you’re ready to get on the bus and hold on.
Speaking of 2020, some big announcements will be coming as we enter into the next decade. Here’s a few hints and highlights:
- ConnectThree Networks are back in full force, which includes our quarterly lunches. There may be a new twist or look to them (wink-wink), but they are back.
- ConnectThree is growing! New services, new people and new opportunities to engage and grow your network and influence. Can’t wait to introduce the team and services that will continue to support the nonprofit community and the leaders that lead them.
- ConnectThree has a new dress. That may sound funny, but you’ll get it in January. Think styling and makeup. Looking forward to walking the runway.
So, until 2020, mark your calendars and get ready. We’re going to soar!